If you want peace of mind, this is a requirement for being with anyone who you are with more than occasionally.
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Dear :
I am writing this in the form of a note so that I'm sure I'm complete and frank and not just being obscure by trying to be nice (as I tend to do in a conversation).
My coach has asked me to fully recognize and share with you the stress and tension I am experiencing from this situation.
When we ride together and speak about how bad situations or people are, I become very focused on what is wrong at work and in life, to the extent that I get very, very upset and have a rough time during the rest of the day. I cannot afford to continue that, so I need to ask your cooperation so that I can be happier. I need you to help me move more toward experiencing more peace of mind.
Whenever we speak of troubles, problems, how bad the principal is, etc., I get so agitated that it ruins my day. I find I can't contribute as well to the children and to others, as I am caught up in the stress and negativity. And I find myself getting very tired very quickly and going almost into exhaustion.
It is essential, per my coach, that I have a positive start and end of my work day so that I am not overly stressed and damaged. This is serious, so I ask that you seriously consider what I ask and if you accept it to hold it as sacred to continue.
I ask that you only speak of positive and/or progressive types of things, possibilities for the future, what you feel good about, what you've learned, what you want in life...and such things as that. I think that, if we do that, we will both feel better during our conversations, during the day, and in our lives.
Will you do this for me?
I am grateful for your understanding and help.
