These are the basic absolutes, in summary, with the discussion following.
TO WHERE FROM WHERE
2. Identify where you are → → 1. Identify where you
↑ want to be
3. Note the gap
↓
4. Close the gap (action)
The formula for failure is to leave out one or more steps or to delay what is necessary to do.
VERIFY
Verify what you really want/need. What is a valid destination?
THEN CLOSE THE GAP, EFFECTIVELY:
Plan how to accomplish
Steps
Identify obstacles/barriers and solutions
Learn - Decide what, develop skills, then do it
Utilize resources - Guidance, leverage, learn
Measure/monitor performance
Get feedback, correct course
Repeat (the cycle)...
THE ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY INGREDIENT
A Directed Action --> B
No miracles, no secrets
And it is your responsibly "creating" that cause the happiness, not "gifts", not
rescues.
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I DON'T FEEL LIKE IT - THE CHOICES
The big illusionary barrier: "I don't feel like it." (This is not a valid reason in any sense of reality.)
The variation on this "not feeling like it" is in the form of "I'm too weak and not capable of doing it, so I won't do it."
If you don't feel so good, you don't feel ambitious, and/or you feel uncomfortable (and need "relief"), you simply need to do the following:
1. Decide if there is a legitimate threat or harm to befall you - and then handle it.
That would include "oh, I'm really tired, so I'll rest." "I'm feeling some stress, so I'll do a three second pause or any of my other tools."
2. Otherwise, I have nothing to lose, so I'll just do it.
Then the result will be that you have done it, even while you're feeling uncomfortable. Otherwise, you just "get to have" uncomfortability, without the results - and then you will judge yourself for not getting results, for the messes left around you (either physically or in unresolved problems). Your diminished capacity might mean that you might not do as good a job as you would like, but you decided that the best use of your efforts were to invest in doing something to get a result. The only other choice was to get a result in terms of offsetting any legitimate harm - and you decided what was best to do - but do nothing was not a legitimate choice you decided.
AND, YOU MIGHT DO THIS
We, as humans, go into "diminished" states of resourcefulness and power. So, a necessary step to make things work is to restore that power to Fully Functioning Homeostasis, instead of trying to be hero working through the resistance of the body and mind. You should consider all and then select the ones that work, from eating, energizing, resting and such - click into those.
THE ONLY EXCEPTIONS
Is there an emergency that is important enough? Then handle it.
If there is not an emergency or something more important to do that will be harmed by doing another current action, you then just do what is in front of you or the next item on your to do list.
VIRTUALLY NOTHING GETS PUT ASIDE, VIRTUALLY NEVER
Nothing gets put aside for "later" if it is something that must be done. No dish is left in the sink, no mess is left anywhere. You simply handle it.
Now then there is the idea that you "need" relief in some way. This is most often an illusion. Decide if there is a legitimate need: food (making sure no low blood sugar and there is enough food for energy), rest, seeking shelter. If not, then your only remaining choice is to stay in action and choose something that will get you a result you want. You always ask "Is this the right thing to do?" or "Is this the best thing to do at this time?" (Brian Tracy's favorite, slightly paraphrased) Or you use some version of that, as if it is a mantra you are repeating all the time when a triggering situation occurs. "Will the benefit me more than another alternative?" "Do I need this or is it wasted excess?" (So I won't eat it, as it is beyond my needs and/or is harmful.)
Even the metaphysical teach Wayne Dyer weighs in on this, as can be seen by the title of his book "Excuses, Begone!" (You just don't get to keep any excuse - and you just have to ask yourself "Is this an excuse?" "Is this really a valid reason 'not to'?" And if the answer is that it is an excuse and not a valid 'not to', then you just move on with a good chosen action that will cause some, even tiny, results that are greater than otherwise would happen. See Justification, Excuses, Reasons-Why-Not "Begone!".)
There is no easy "out" that you can give yourself. You must make a decision and then do an action. And that is not hard, but it is good to know and honor yourself and the law by following it.
THE MYTH OF "HARD"
The myth of "hard to do". There is no "hard to do", per se. There are things that require more effort overall and there are things that require more intense effort in a shorter period. But those are just facts, just laws of physics. You do your best to decide if something is worth the effort and then you either decide to use your energy for that or something else. You "invest energy" to try to get a good "return on your investment", and, to the extent that things are not under your control, you sometimes lose and get nothing - but not on the average, overall, when all added together. If you do what you think are right actions, you are guaranteed to get good results in life - and you'll win some and lose a few, but you'll be an overall winner.
Of course, if you're tired, then things take more effort because you are likely inefficient and you are doing the equivalent of slogging through the mud. Unless it is an emergency, again, you would stop and do the necessary repairs (such as sleep, eat, drink lots of water, etc.).
Of course, to a person living in the myth of "I'm still a small person who is powerless and dependent on others", anything that is beyond being comfortable seems like a big life-threatening thing - a baby will interpret things that way in the face of no clarity and no ability to distinguish - vague = I'm potentially screwed. To an adult, it is there is no big threat, I may lose something, but overall I can create a net positive.
THE LACK OF APPLYING A REALISTIC "ANALYSIS"
"If I didn't leave things around and have such a messy home, then I would have to spend two hours a day cleaning it up."
Are you kidding me? There is no way that you would have the time to create that big a mess and filth. (So it does sound like an excuse or a "flail" of irreason, in order to avoid something, such as being realistic.)
No, of course, I am an individual who tries not to waste effort, so I streamline what I cook so that I don't spend alot of time, but my total clean up time to have a neat place, per day, is less than 15 minutes of focused effort, sometimes far less...
Anyway, if you have to do something sooner or later, then it is, except in emergency or a large conflicting priority, imperative to do it sooner - if you want a great life.
