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CONTENTS
What are "self-talks"?
How can I use them effectively?
Pep talks - Reenergize and/or refocus you, when you're down and/or simply off purpose.
Coping/calming - To lessen the reaction and to calm the brains down to "feel"/function better.
Soothing - Similar to coping/calming, but just to soothe, as a parent would.
Positive inputting - Of good stuff to think and believe and focus on.
Reminding - Of what is important, of what inspires you...
Taking over to get what I want - To be effective when you need to be effective.
Handling "bad" habits - To not let those habits run you, but to feel good also.
Specific topics - From self-esteem and confidence to relationships to health to... to
strengthen specific areas, talents, traits
Resources - Other resources that can be helpful
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WHAT ARE SELF-TALKS?
Since we talk to ourselves constantly, either subvocally "hearing" ourselves or below our awareness, we might as well talk to ourselves in such a way as to get the most out of life. Inevitably, to be "in charge" we must use the Higher Brain, the one that reasons and makes good decisions. Meanwhile, we need to benefit from the danger signals and random creations of the lower brains (the "lizard brain" and the "monkey mind"). For further understanding, see Which Brain Is In Charge? And What To Say To The Others.
Here is a collection of those talks you might use, in a handy place, to access when needed, especially when your Higher Brain needs to take charge and get the results you "know" you would better cause. I put many of these on the site for myself to have available to put myself back in gear when my brains weren't thinking so well, especially when my emotions or fears got in the way. I also wanted to memorize these, so that they are even more available, so that I could more easily run my life to get more of what I wanted in life.
Self-talks are different from affirmations in that they are more complete and often include reminding oneself of what the rationale for the conclusions are. It is a bit like a wiser, caring person talking to you, or even a friend.
There is a written version and then also an mp3 version which you can download and have available on your computer or pda (or you can simply access and listen to them on this site whenever you want to). (Coming soon...)
Since visual is one input and learning mode, you may want to print out a written version of these and put it into your Reminders Notebook.
THE AFFIRMING, DECLARING, TAKING A STAND SELF TALKS
Although all of the "self talk" modes do contribute, the "tying down" self talks are of the most central importance. These can be as extensive as reading to yourself your philosophy in life. They can be as targeted as declaring you "no longer will believe stories are true!"
PEP TALKS
When you're down and out or simply off purpose, these will help reenergize you and/or refocus you.
COPING/CALMING SELF-TALKS
These are for the purpose of lessening the reaction to something and to calm the brains down to "feel"/function better.
Positive inputting - Of good stuff to think and believe and focus on.
Reminding - Of what is important, of what inspires you...
Taking over to get what I want - To be effective when you need to be effective.
Handling "bad" habits - To not let those habits run you, but to feel good also.
SOOTHING SELF-TALKS
Similar to coping/calming thoughts, these soothe one as a parent would soothe a child.
"There, there you're just fine as you are." "Just have fun, I'm here to watch out for you."
POSITIVE INPUTTING
REMINDING
TAKING OVER TO GET WHAT I WANT
I, The Higher Brain, Will Now Take Charge - Stop wandering or being stuck in an emotional muddle or simply being "off purpose" - and take over, powerfully! Wav version.
HANDLING "BAD" HABITS - Not letting habits run you, while filling the need to feel good, which those habits were attempting to do anyway, but with less good results.
SPECIFIC TOPICS
These are talks you write up for yourself in a particular area where they can be helpful.
They can reflect one of the goal sheets in the area (see Planning Links), especially the part where the "why"s are identified, though you might want to elaborate more on those.
The end result will be a centered, balanced, adult conversation about the area, what you want in that area, and what you are willing to do to achieve that.
These will tend to be a full page, though they can be somewhat shorter and can be longer if that is what you feel is needed.
These would be read and reviewed at least 21 days in a row and then periodically. They would be kept in the Reminders Notebook.
HEALTH
RELATIONSHIPS
SELF-ESTEEM/CONFIDENCE
RESOURCES
