CHECKLIST OF HAPPINESS (AND UNHAPPINESS) CREATORS
A REMINDER AND AN IMPLEMENTATION LIST
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Check off mastery in each one of these, for there is no other path to true happiness. First, master the high priority items to attain the high payoff. Also, I recommend that you go further, by rating yourself in each of these with a grade from A to F, and then fixing those that need to be fixed, concentrating particularly on the highest effect ones.
CREATORS
The Highest Components
The Basic Creators
High __ Gratitude - This is a viewpoint, of seeing and loving what is - very practical.
Medium __ Hope (as part of a study on religion); __ confidence in abilities to produce
results regardless of the circumstances beats this, as it is really a view that
the future and life will work out; hope is a passive form of this and a
dependent form
- depending on something else to happen, rather than realizing bad
outcomes will happen and we cannot stay in the position of being a victim
of it.
Minor __ Marriage
Minor__ Rich social life
Minor__ Social intelligence, by itself (however, it is useful in other ways)
Slight or no effect: Education, climate, race, gender
FACILITATORS - While these produce some feeling of happiness, their big contribution is in facilitating what creates happiness and eliminating what producers unhappiness, two sides to the same coin.
Highest __ Learning how life works and how to work it, how to "master life"
High __ Personal and social intelligence (knowledge of self and of others)
High __ Developing optimism style and positive viewpoint
High __ Learning thought control and creating thoughts anew
Medium __ Avoiding negative events and negative emotions
UNHAPPINESS CREATORS
High __ Need for approval (to validate, prove worthy, etc.) - 'Tis an unreliable source
High __ Dependence on outcomes, circumstance, other people to create happiness
__ Unrealistic view of personal power, capabilities - a view of dependency
__ Feeling helpless, powerless, or low power over life
High __ Bad marriage, poor selection of spouse
High __ Bad selection of job/career/avocation (and poor skills to have the right job,
financial and personal psychological effects)