VICTIM STATEMENTS
THESE CREATE, REINFORCE VICTIMHOOD
Never, to the extent possible, use these statement!
Notice which of these you are doing. Or when you want to be a victim, look at this list to see what to say:
Look what you made me do.
You hurt my feelings.
It's not my fault.
Can you believe what she did to me?
If you straightened up your act, we could get along.
I want an apology.
I want her to acknowledge that what she did to me was wrong.
I am sick and tired of ...
I don't appreciate that.
I don't have enough time.
When you do that, it just drives me nuts.
I can't help it, it's just the way I am.
If only he/she would/wouldn't ...
It's all his/her fault.
I was just minding my own business when ...
I am always so busy. I never have time for myself.
I'm that way because of my terrible childhood.
I don't love myself enough yet, and, until I do ...
Can you believe it? That man/woman cut right in front of me...
I was late because I hit every red light; I was behind the school bus;
We always have to do what you want to do.
I have told you a thousand times that I don't like that.
And after all that I have done for him/her...
If they cared about me, they wouldn't do that.
I do all the giving around here and get nothing in return.
I have been abused by people all my life.
I am just not going to put up with that anymore.
I have worked hard for all I have and look what you did.
I have worked two jobs just to support you.
My boss doesn't respect me.
My kids don't appreciate all that I do for them.
It is because of you that I have this headache.
You just don't know the misery that you have caused me.
If it weren't for me you would be a nobody.
I don't ask much from you. Why can't you do this for me?
You have hurt me for the last time.
Why does this always have to happen to me?
You make me so mad, frustrated, angry, etc.
I don't have time to deal with his/her foolishness.
If they would/would not do that, I could do my part better.
If it weren't for these children, I could do more.
He/she made me do this, I don't want to, but...
Why should I do this when he/she does that?
What about me?
The schools are ruining my children.
My ex-spouse is ruining my children.
People just don't care anymore. They take advantage every chance they get.
I am just so busy, I just don't have time to do anything I like.
He/she/they made me...
I can't help it.
I can't...
I'll try (versus I will)
Why don't you...
He/she/they should...
Life is really difficult for me.
If you can't do your part, I'm not going to do mine!
Do you really love me?
If you are willing to help, that's great. If not, then I'll struggle through myself.
You screwed me all up.
They need to be taught a lesson.
I want to be sure that they won't do this to someone else.
It's the system.
You don't know how I've suffered.
I suffer more (so I deserve more).
I want a piece of the pie.
Life is like that; that's life.
If it's not one thing it's another.
A woman's work is never done.
You can't win for losing.
I'm doing the best I can.
I only want what's fair.
It wasn't my idea, so you can't blame me.
Boy, are they going to miss me when I'm gone.
Nobody loves me.
My life will never be the same.
Ain't it awful?
If you'd been through what I have been through.
Hope your children don't treat you that way.
They done me wrong.
After all I did for them, this is what I get.
What did I do to deserve this?
They showed me no respect. They treated me like dirt.
My job is driving me crazy.
You have no idea what I do all day.
Nobody else works as hard as I do.
If you want me to treat you nice, treat me nice.
Ugh! I can't eat that! It looks awful!
My parents don't understand me.
The doctors made a mess of me.
Some people have all the luck.
Someone has to suffer for what happened to me.
I always got the worst teachers and bosses.
Anyone in my situation would be as angry as I am.
I'm not responsible for how I react.
I just can't live like this anymore.
All I do is pick up after you.
I couldn't help it.
You'll be sorry.
I won't forget this.
Nobody understands me.
I'm so busy, I don't have time to do anything I like.
I can't believe you did that!
They just don't listen to what I say.
That makes me so mad I could spit.
I have been traumatized all my life.
Hey, look, I am the victim in all this!!
It's too late. The damage is done.
That makes me so mad I could spit!!
Experience counts for nothing around here.
The dog ate my homework.
You don't know what the day has been like.
I never do it right.
It's so hard for me.
I'll probably get this wrong again. I'm not doing enough.
I'm not giving/caring enough.
Others don't notice how nice I am.
I tend to mess things up; I don't get it right.
They really don't want me around. I just get in the way.
I'm not pulling my own weight.
I'm not contributing enough.
I'm not doing as well as others.
Things always go wrong for me.
This always happens to me.
It's so hard for me.
My life is such a struggle.
Why me? Why does this happen to me?
If I can't do it right, I just won't do it.
I can't really trust others.
I'll just go off by myself and do my own thing.
People don't understand me, and I don't understand why.
I'm overwhelmed.
You just don't understand.
If only you had...
I had bad parenting.
I'll change when they change.
I deserve some relief from this terrible day.
You would have thought they'd have...
Why am I not surprised?
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