One of the biggest wastes in the world is to attempt to control the uncontrollable (or what is not worth the effort to control).
Follow these principles religiously. Find out why you do it and what the misconceptions are that have us doing it over and over.
A variation on The Serenity Prayer:
Grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change,
the courage to change the one I can,
and the wisdom to know it's me.
About control:
be clear on those things you can control and what you can't. Finish this here and
now.
control?
and letting go of what you can't control is also vital.
even worth it at times.
complete.
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See especially the section:
Control
Give up the illusion of control
Give up trying to control outcomes
Your responsibility, boundary
Give up trying to control others
Know you are not in control and it is a losing battle to try
Confidence And Self Esteem section, Discussion - Overview. Again, we can choose to be judicious in control or we can choose to victimize ourselves...
make overall in life (and important in individual situations).
In Relationships:
experiencing alot of what is good in life. From the Relationships section of the site.