tba 5/27/11 version Just read this lightly as it will be applied in the worksheet format. You can then go back and read it again, in more depth.
This is the "path to", which, always, is the "path through" (to the other side).
Objective: Operate in life off of good, empowering, rational, fact-based beliefs/thoughts such that I experience deep happiness, guaranteed.
Method: Clear out irrational, non-fact based thoughts/beliefs and replace with rational, fact-based conversation and beliefs that are empowering and true. Install thoroughly so that the rational predominates. (There is no point in discovering something that causes a problem and then leaving it be.)
Principle: Look for the underlying pillar(s) that is supporting the other untrue beliefs and correct those - eliminates the whole structure and the multiple variations that are based on that pillar - conquers multiple pieces all at once when the structure falls down.
Develop the entire reasoning for the corrected belief, so that you have a solid foundation - it does not
work to install new "sentences" if there is not a full foundation for them.
Observation: Any positive statement (that is not foolish) is better than repeating a negative statement.
Negative statements should never be made, unless they are used for correcting them.
Only do Powerful Languaging, follow all the rules, religiously, as if your life depended on it.
Learn that random thoughts are meaningless and often deceptive, but in any event they
should almost all be dismissed. This is thought mastery 101 and mandatory for
achieving happiness.
"We can spend all of our lives dealing with the symptoms of something, but if we choose to solve the cause, there will be no symptoms to deal with. Those who just deal with symptoms are doomed to repeatedly having them, because they leave the cause intact." (Duh!)
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THE STEPS
Step. 1. Awareness
A. Identify what is going on. (Trains the brain to use its thinking function more, which
eventually becomes more automatic and the emotional brain becomes less active.)
1. Note a "bad feeling" - Sign that there is a cause to look at.
2. Look for what caused the bad feeling.
B. Write it down (Trains the brain, as it uses black and white perspective, instead of just
emotional or unreasoned, so reactivity is decreased.) Write thoughts on the left side of the
sheet only.
1. Do a "brain dump", writing all that is on your mind relative to your internal conversations
Step 2. Analyzing and correcting (The more one attempts this, the more the brain is trained to do it automatically and better. It is a skill that is necessary, for without it real progress cannot be made.)
A. Look at the left side and look for and add if necessary what the big meaning is, the primal threat.
Identify and extend the underlying "logic" used on the left side.
B. Ask "what is true?" and "what is not true?"
C. Address what is not true, devising a new belief/thought that is true and workable.
1. Dispute the old belief and use those disputations to form the new one.
2. Pretend as if a wise friend is kindly debating you (but you be the pretend friend)
3. If it is a particular belief that is fairly common see the list of specific beliefs in the beliefs
4. Write down all the beliefs and evidence that support the new belief.
5. Keep the resultant write-outs in a common referenceable location.
After you have done what you can, it is advisable to use a skilled person to supplement with ideas and suggestions, so that you can not only get a more refined complete product but also so that you can gain additional insights into how to use this skill set.
Step 3. Install fully
A. Repeat until learned (able to recall it in the moment).
B. Install it deeper and permanently by rereading all the logic for it.
THE WORKSHEET - The basic format for reworking beliefs could be as presented below. [I also created a "super-form" that includes all the pieces of changing beliefs and installing the new ones. It or the shortened "ABCDEF" version (which includes a filled out example) are recommended for initial use, but you can also use the Beliefs Processing Forms Directory/Links to identify and link into any forms you might want to use for various purposes or levels.
Use any piece of paper large enough for writing two sides. Having a The One Master Notebook available allows for writing it down as soon as possible, when you might also be in a frenzy and miss a few things but still captures some of the prime thinking - often a person will have to return later to fill out the missings on the left side of the sheet (and right side, later). Although there are advantages to writing down the so-called negatives very quickly on the left side without interruption, you could quickly throw in a right side thought if it occurs at the time. Note that it is ok to "put into words" something that you impute as being there or believe has to be there implicitly in order to have come to the conclusions you did and/or feel the intensity of emotion that you did.
When typing this out, which I do recommend, it is best to use a "table", so that you can type in more in a box if you choose to do so - and the other side of the thinking, on the right side, will still stay inline opposite the left side uncorrected thoughts. (To set up your form, set up a two column table and then highlight everything on the left side below, press the CTRL key and C at the same time, then put your cursor on the left side of the table and press CTRL and V at the same time; use the same procedure for the right side.
