As these are philosophical viewpoints, of great impact in psychology and self-esteem, concepts affecting one's fears and emotions, and of significant effect in relationships, I am pulling all of this into one place to make sure I have them all available. Self-judging and criticism are central sources of unhappiness, such that the elimination of them may be about half of the battle. Unreasonable fears are the other half - plus many of our fears are related to this syndrome.
This is central, essential, crucial to your life. This is something you should understand and master - which means that you aren't finished until you are no longer engaging in any of this nonsense. These are all based on beliefs and viewpoints that are erroneous, so the Changing Beliefs process must be engaged in.
The need for approval is related to this. The fundamental idea that I have to prove myself because something is wrong with me and/or I'm bad or less than.
This syndrome is the source of a large portion of your negative feelings, based on beliefs that are erroneous and harmful and need to be corrected at the very base of them.