ANGER, BLAME, RESENTMENT, CRITICISM SECTION
CONTENTS/LINKS




Related Contents/Links sections: 

      Emotion And Fear Management (Anger is a secondary emotion caused by fear)
      Fault, Blame, Criticism...Syndrome (The basis for anger being wrongly thought of as effective.)
      Psychology



INTRODUCTION/OVERVIEW

Anger/Blame/Criticism

A separate compilation, with more, is in the Fault, Blame, Criticism Links/Directory.

TEST, MEASURE

Take Emotional Maturity" test - As a starting measure against which to measure progress.

Blame, Anger, Shame - Myself - A questionnaire 

THE PROCESS

Anger And Thoughtless Reactiveness - Understandable And Very Curablle - I can feel empathy for the underlying cause, but it is something that must be stopped, as it damages those around you and yourself.  Read this and then make the choice asked for at the end of the piece.

Anger (The Response To Feeling "Threatened") And Its Appropriate Handling - Helpless victim of this false emotion or master of it.  It is actually a secondary emotion, often obscuring what is underneath it...  

    *Short Temper - A childish, selfish indulgence,
        never justified, damaging to one's health and
        very damaging to relationships. 

THE CAUSES, ENABLERS, FORMS

Blame
   Reasoning For No Blame 
        Resentment - A form of anger
   Blame, Criticism, Resentment, Forgiveness -
       All The Same Source, All The Same
       Solution 
Criticism
   Self-Criticism
   Self-Hate
   Self-Sabotage
Frustration - Anger at circumstances or
   people, juvenile and doesn't work!
Impatience - Not accepting life as it is, a form       of anger, resistance, and/or  judging
   another. 

EXACERBATORS

The Process Of The Great Escalation
    Rage
         Rageful Envy - Barbara
    Hate
    Vengeance, "Getting Even" - A "fatal"
         ideation.

THE BAD STRATEGIES

Inflicting Pain On Others To Get A Result - It doesn't work and it is based on a great misunderstanding!




THE EFFECTIVE STRATEGIES

The Time Out Tool - Vital, vital, vital!  It allows higher
      brain thinking and self determination!
Compassion
       Compassion And The Human Condition - A
         Look At Yourself - See   what compassion
        really is, rating yourself as you go.  Most
        people don't know what compassion really is!
       Compassion Meditation
100% Responsibility Stance - A must, period!
    Test:  Responsibility Vs. Non-Responsibility -
        Where are you?!
Acceptance - The need for it and the way to it. 
   With this, anger and blame disappear.
The Rational, Nurturing Adult - Choose this instead of
     childish, misdirected anger and you'll live life well!
Choosing to Feel More And to Master Emotions - Anger masks feelings and disables emotional intelligence.  Anger is a secondary emotion and you've got to see the underlying emotion to cure that secondary emotion!
   Visualize Body, Scanning and Noticing Feelings
        and Tightnesses - A useful technique for
          individuals who are expressing anger or
          criticism, as they are often out of touch with
          their feelings.  Being aware of feelings,
          beyond anger, is immensely helpful for
          managing one's emotions.                              The Forgiveness Processing Form - Follow this guide to complete the process.

LEARN

Emotional Intelligence - The core skill to develop to manage your emotions and the quality of your life.

Webinar:  "Strength Without Anger", Option Institute, Media, Webcasts

See also Resources, below.

THE PERSONAS/ROLES TAKEN

The Judge/Critic - Run the other way from this person, or if it is you, change it!  
Characteristics of My Caregivers - You'll often copy some behaviors that are not so great and/or the way they behaved gives you "permission" to behave a certain way. 

RESOURCES



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