CONTENTS
First priority, as beliefs determine the quality of our lives
Learning about beliefs
Links for further learning across areas:
Esteem/confidence
Fear/Anxiety/Worry
Psychology Overall
Managing The Mind
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FIRST PRIORITY: BELIEFS DETERMINE THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES
The quality of our beliefs determine the quality of our lives, in addition to our progress in, our peace of mind, and our experience of life. Becoming an expert in this area, as part of the Happiness skills, is imperative. Note also that developing the Gratitude viewpoint goes hand in hand with this part.
LEARNING ABOUT BELIEFS
Learning about this vital, vital link to living a happy life will be relatively easy and very, very productive.
Understanding beliefs and seeing which ones cause various results in life helps put you "at choice" about which ones to keep and which ones to change.
Beliefs (and thoughts that aren't beliefs) are highly related to the "sentences" we have in our Internal Conversations, so you'll want to read the key parts of that section.
After my 5 week summer sequence at Option, I wrote the following piece about how and why my experience of beliefs, shoulds, and fears was "transformed":
In the self-esteem section excerpts below, you'll learn how false standards, control, and judgment affect beliefs.
In the Fear Anxiety section, you'll wanted to discern between real and false threats in Threats And Fear. Most fear is based on erroneous beliefs. Change the beliefs and you eliminate the fear!
In the Psychology excerpts herein you'll want to especially read about judging and criticizing oneself, plus the piece about discriminating between truth and not-truth, which many people don't do! This piece is central to all psychology and to some false beliefs most people have: No-Blame - The Reasoning For
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READ THESE FOR FURTHER LEARNING "ACROSS THE AREAS"
Understanding beliefs and seeing which ones cause various results in life helps put you "at choice" about which ones to keep and which ones to change.
Faith - What is it, how appropriate is it in some cases, and how to have it.
No-Blame - The Reasoning For - Buy into this central concept and your criticism of yourself will diminish (along with numerous disempowering beliefs) and the criticism of others may disappear all together (mine has, as it dissolves any such thought virtually instantly.
Brain Patterns - Help you to understand how "stupid" most of your thoughts are.
Key Individual Beliefs, One By One - Clarifying each as to whether they are true, how they could be converted to something more beneficial. Build a new belief structure one by one, while deleting those that don't work.
FROM THE SELF-ESTEEM/SELF-CONFIDENCE section, but really about "straight thinking. Many people act confident or are actually confident but many fail to realize that changing thinking in these ways can make a huge difference - we call it "straight thinking" and getting in touch with the realities of human behavior. Some pieces of interest are :
As A Powerful Person I... (See also Life Management, Creating A Whole New Person and The Powerful Person) - In order to create something, one first has to see clearly what it is, including all the details.
acts. Rate yourself on these and then raise the level of where you are.
Knowing What I Can And Can't Control - Not knowing this leads to unnecessary frustration, waste of energy, and often some false conclusions about oneself. Consider reading some of the linked pages.
"locus of control", for if you're not clear you'll suffer from trying to control the wrong things.
as it is, directing your energy where it works, and to having a sense of control that helps one be
more certain.
Where Are You On The Victim Versus Cause Scale? - You cannot afford to be even partially toward the "wrong" side. Many people don't see that the are operating in some areas as a victim, as they think they are strong - they need to realize what is causing some of their unhappiness.
FROM THE FEAR, ANXIETY, WORRY section, as most of our beliefs originally derive from fear and the misunderstanding of what there is to lose - or not lose! There is much to learn in this section, so you might wish to scan and pick pieces to read, using the Emotion And Fear Management Contents/Links page. Some pieces to, perhaps, read first.
Threats And Fear - We misperceive what is a threat - and then we are off and running in our fears and the fear flight/fight response - hugely wasting our resources, damaging our bodies, and wasting our lives.
What I Have, For Sure - Part of the basis for realizing we have exaggerated fears of loss, when there is truly no need to have any fear. This is an essential understanding to all of life.
My Utility "Coping" Thoughts - These are thoughts that generalize about life which are brought into mind readily and frequently when things happen. They can be disempowering (identify yours) or empowering. Examples are provided to choose from or jump off of. An essential to a happy life - used by the happiest people in the world (Why Are Buddhist Monks So Happy?)
FROM PSYCHOLOGY OVERALL, Key Readings and Individual Pieces, some selected below: (Go as deeply as you wish, by selecting the pieces that are of interest to you from the various level of contents/links pages, The top level links into the other areas: Psychology Contents/Links.)
Excerpts from the BASIC LEARNING MODULE:
The Eternal Internal Triangle - An Empowering Model - Use this model to understand all the basic overview in psychology and in relationships. This should clear up which part of you needs to be in charge and it will add insights that will help you see how certain practices and ways of viewing things will
enhance your life tremendously.
The Judge/Critic - This is a great deal of the basis for psychology. Learn to handle this and your relationship with yourself and others will dramatically improve.
Read the pieces that are capitalized, below. Also, you might read the asterisked ones.
INDIVIDUAL PIECES ON PSYCHOLOGY (Read per interest, see above for key pieces for everyone to read. Read especially those title that are capitalized. )
Acceptance - The need for it and the way to it. (One question is where to get it from.)
KEY THOUGHTS AND BEHAVIORS TO CHOOSE TO ATTAIN PERSONAL HAPPINESS AND PEACE - STAGE I - A 15 page "book" that will help you drop certain thinking and change behaviors such that you can maintain personal happiness and peace. Worth more than a few minutes of your time.
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LATER, WHEN READY, READ THESE EXCERPTS FROM OTHER SECTIONS:
You can link below to key beliefs that are extracted on the following topics, whenever you're ready to go deeper:
relevant sections. This includes low frustration tolerance, irritability, impatience, etc.
determine your entire psychology
first you should also learn how the mind works.
Victimhood - The primary underlying cause behind much fear and unhappiness. Study it and you'll dump childhood beliefs much quicker!
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